If the thought of getting back together with your ex seems tempting, ask yourself the following questions before you decide! 1. Why did you two break up? If you broke up because he violated your trust, getting back together may not be such a good idea. The key to a good, lasting relationship is mutual trust. Ask yourself, if you forgive him for whatever he did, are you going to forget it. Or is it going to be in the back of your mind every day for the rest of your life?

It's hard to be in a relationship when you don't trust the man you're with. Besides, who wants to be with a guy when you have to look over your shoulder every minute to find out if he's deceiving you. You deserve better than that! 2. Is he remorseful and willing to change? Changing a man is almost impossible unless he truly wants to change the behavior that caused you both to break up. However, at the same time, we have to realize that people make mistakes.

Depending on what your guy did to cause the break up, you may want to give him one chance if that's what he's asking for. It is possible that people can learn from their mistakes and if given another chance, you will get to see how your man has changed. Hopefully, it's for the better! :-) 3. Spend at least two weeks alone after a break up with no contact with your ex. If he calls you, don't return the call. If he texts you, ignore it. Has he sent you an e-mail? Ignore it.

You've got to take time alone after a break up to catch your breath emotionally. You need to be alone with your thoughts so that you can figure out what went wrong and what you want to do about. Keep the focus on you, your needs and decide what you want in a man. Be brutally honest. If you know in your heart that based on your man's past behavior, he's got a pattern of cheating, staring at other women or calling up his ex when you two fight, then you need to be honest with yourself